This week, as I was taking time for self-study, I started to think about the effects of COVID-19 and noticed that most individuals are more concerned with themselves than with the effect this situation has on others, our community at large. It was heartbreaking to realize how dealing with so much fear has caused many people to close their hearts to compassion.
As I thought about this at length throughout the day, I remembered how many philosophies propose that compassion for ourselves is the first step toward compassion for others. While this may seem counterintuitive, it actually makes a lot of sense — the more we show kindness and love to ourselves and allow others to love and show kindness to us, the more we are able to give these gifts to others in return.
I came across a beautiful guided meditation on the Mindful website that I want to share with you. You can visit the recorded version here (https://www.mindful.org/a-compassion-practice-for-opening-the-heart/) or you can read the text I quoted below. If you do end up listening to the recorded version, you will encounter long pauses between each section, so when these occur focus on staying present in that timeless state of meditation. I hope you take a moment to practice this and ultimately open your heart to more compassion.
To connect more deeply with others, we must face the one person that we keep on the shortest leash: ourselves. We often reject other people’s care or attention when we believe we don’t deserve it—but there’s nothing special you must do to deserve love. As Sharon Salzberg reminds us, it is simply because you exist. Follow this fifteen-minute guided meditation to open your heart toward giving and receiving love. — The Mindful Editors
1) Imagine you’re encircled by people who love you. Sit comfortably, eyes open or closed, and imagine yourself in the center of a circle made up of the most loving beings you’ve met. There may be some people in your circle who you’ve never met but have been inspired by. Maybe they exist now or they’ve existed historically, or even mythically.
2) Receive the love of those who love you. Experience yourself as the recipient of the energy, attention, care, and regard of all of these beings in your circle of love. Silently repeat whatever phrases are expressive of that which you most wish for yourself, not just for today but in an enduring way. Phrases that are big and open, something like: this: May I be safe, be happy, be healthy. Live with ease of heart. May I be safe, be happy, be healthy. Live with ease of heart.
3) Notice how you feel when you receive love. As you experience yourself in the center of the circle, all kinds of different emotions may arise. You may feel gratitude and awe, or you might feel kind of shy, like you would rather duck down and have all of these beings send loving kindness to one another and forget about you. Whatever emotion may arise, you just let it wash through you. Your touchstone is those phrases: May I be happy. May I be peaceful … or whatever phrases you’ve chosen.
4) Open yourself up to receiving love. Imagine that your skin is porous and this warm, loving energy is coming in. Imagine yourself receiving. There’s nothing special that you need to do to deserve this kind of acknowledgment and care. It’s given to you simply because you exist. Open yourself up to receiving love. There’s nothing special that you need to do to deserve this kind of acknowledgment or care. It’s yours simply because you exist.
5) Send loving care to the people in your circle. You can allow that quality of loving kindness and compassion and care you feel coming toward you to flow right back out to the circle and then toward all beings everywhere, so that what you receive, you transform into giving. You give the quality of care and kindness that does actually exist in this world. That can become part of you and part of what you express or return. When you feel ready you can open your eyes or lift your gaze to end the session.
Disclaimer
The sole purpose of these articles is to provide information about the tradition of Ayurveda. This information is not intended for use in the diagnosis, treatment, cure or prevention of any disease